Notes on Parenting 150322

We make our children unlearn sharing by teaching them possessiveness. If child gives his toy to someone, we tell it was yours.

Children doubt negativity in others, not positivity. So if we tell he is bad, they will ask why and how.

Having relationship power over child is better than having an authority power over child.

A child is going to remember who was there, not what you spent on them. Kids outgrow a toy & outfits, but they never outgrow time and love.

Let your child know every time you shout or punish him that it is being done out of care and concern. You don't like doing it but every good action has a reward and every bad action has a consequence.

Many people think that having a child instantly makes them a parent. Nothing could be further from the truth. "Nothing to it parenting" style is wrong.

Role Modelling works. Do as I am, and not Do as I say.

Smart parents around the world have invented all kinds of variations on the calming womb-like sensations I’ve dubbed the 5 S’s: Swaddle, Side-Stomach Position, Shush, Swing, and Suck.
Source - https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/baby/the-5-s-s-for-soothing-babies

IDIOT COMPASSION The late Tibetan teacher Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche coined the term "Idiot Compassion." Idiot Compassion takes place when during times of trying to display compassion to others we end up letting them walk all over us or harm their interest when we should be tough. This often happens when we try to avoid conflict.
https://www.greggraber.com/post/idiot-compassion#:~:text=The%20late%20Tibetan%20teacher%20Chogyam,we%20try%20to%20avoid%20conflict.

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Notes on Parenting 221221

We make our children unlearn sharing by teaching them possessiveness. If child gives his toy to someone, we tell it was yours.

Children doubt negativity in others, not positivity. So if we tell he is bad, they will ask why and how.

Having relationship power over child is better than having an authority power over child.

A child is going to remember who was there, not what you spent on them. Kids outgrow a toy & outfits, but they never outgrow time and love.

Let your child know every time you shout or punish him that it is being done out of care and concern. You don't like doing it but every good action has a reward and every bad action has a consequence.

Many people think that having a child instantly makes them a parent. Nothing could be further from the truth. "Nothing to it parenting" style is wrong.

Role Modelling works. Do as I am, and not Do as I say.

Notes on Parenting 091121

 Distinguish between praise and encouragement. Praise is addictive like candy. Encouragement prepares child for setbacks.

Give choices, limited choices, to child. This makes him feel empowered.

The way you talk to your children becomes their inner voice.

Giving too much attention to kids like in helicopter parenting makes them dependent and needy, as also attention-seekers

Acting without words or silent signals is a good tool for positive discipline.

Stop making statements and start asking better questions to make them critical thinkers.

A child behaving like narcissist is okay because to him the world revolves around him.

Try to make everyday moments to lifetime memories.

What you do as a parent matters more than what you say.

Avoid giving sugar or sugary foods to kids after 7 pm to ensure that they sleep in time.