Notes on Communication 251121

 For conscious communication, don't mask your feelings. Instead of saying, Where were you?, say, I felt hurt that you did not tell me where you had gone?

Saying 'You are an idiot' is quite different from 'You are acting like an idiot.'

'You can not follow something blindly', is a statement that hurts a blind person. Because it suggests blindness means diminished intelligence. We should be conscious about how we communicate about disabilities.

Keep the information flowing. Unlike other resources, information when shared gets increased value.

"Listening is an act of love. It is an all-body activity."

Over-communication is better than under-communication.

Reverting does not mean replying back. It means going back to an earlier status.

Effectiveness in communication is determined by the result of communication.

Listening is like pouring tea in a cup. If the cup is clean and empty, listening is best. But if cup is kept upside down, tea will go waste, that is when we are not paying attention at all. If the cup is cracked, tea leaks out. That is when we are trying to listen but our attention is out of control. Or when the cup has something in it already. That is when we are full of toxic certainty,

Notes on Management 231121

Social loafing is when in a group task, an individual chooses to work less thinking that others will anyway accomplish the task. Decrease in motivation and productivity in group setting.

The Köhler effect occurs when an inferior team member performs a difficult task better in a team or coaction situation than one would expect from knowledge of his or her individual performance.

Peter Drucker uses terms entrepreneurial judo and not invented here, nih, to explain how japanese used transistors to capture the radio market, replacing the vacuum tube radios.

Economics is akin to intelectual prostitution as powers decide what they want and then favour economists who share those views.

Grit is combination of passion and perseverance over a long period of time. (Angela Duckworth)

There is no right decision. There is only the decision itself and the willingness to accept its consequences.
At times, we always assume the worst in people. Someone puts you on a case because they think you are the best. And we think, it was done to put us in our place, which makes us the worst.
Sometimes an emphatic no is the last step you have to take before jumping in with two feet.
(Bluebloods)

Notes on Spirituality 151121

 There is difference between prayaankaal and antkaal. Former means time of departure that is one will come back, latter means end time that is going for good.

Brahmchari means one who is engaged in Brahma all the time. Karamchari means who is engaged in karma or action all the time, like an employee.

Sanyasi is the one who has given up the sense of agency, I am the doer. One who has given up the expectations of the results of actions is yogi. One practices yoga to become sanyasi.

Vibhuti yoga is yoga of divine glories.

Just as electricity is there in a dark room in the form of wiring and it manifests itself when the bulb is switched on, God is everywhere and manifests itself.

Ganesha has two wives, Ridhi and Sidhi. Ganesha is God which removes obstacles. He does so by Ridhi, power and Sidhi, faculties.

Our mind is Kaamdhenu. It grants all our wishes.

Vasuki snake signifies oneness, smallest and longest. It is very small snake used as ring on finger of Siva. But Vasuki is also used as long rope to churn ocean for nectar.

People from the land of Sindhu river are called Hindus

Gayatri Mantra is in the praise of sun god Savitter.

Notes on Parenting 091121

 Distinguish between praise and encouragement. Praise is addictive like candy. Encouragement prepares child for setbacks.

Give choices, limited choices, to child. This makes him feel empowered.

The way you talk to your children becomes their inner voice.

Giving too much attention to kids like in helicopter parenting makes them dependent and needy, as also attention-seekers

Acting without words or silent signals is a good tool for positive discipline.

Stop making statements and start asking better questions to make them critical thinkers.

A child behaving like narcissist is okay because to him the world revolves around him.

Try to make everyday moments to lifetime memories.

What you do as a parent matters more than what you say.

Avoid giving sugar or sugary foods to kids after 7 pm to ensure that they sleep in time.

Notes on Nutrition 081121

 Himalayan pink salt, also known as sendha namak or rock salt is superior to table salt, in moderation.

Have tandoori roti instead of naan

Have plain curd instead of boondi raita

When we eat too much fruit, we increase the level of K in our body and end up losing more water in the form of urine.

Low Na causes muscle weakness

The rule is to have snacks in small quantities, even if it seems low in calories.

Momos have high gi due to maida

Murmure is white rice. Has high gi

food you eat accounts for 80 per cent of how you look and how much weight you have; 10-15 per cent is exercise and the remaining 5 per cent we can blame on genetics.

Notes on Management 261021

 PUMA Pulled out of mid air (Mckinsey Edge book)

DEEPAK CHOPRA Teachings:

L.E.A.D.E.R.S: #1 Look & Listen. #2 Emotional Bonding.#3 Awareness. #4 Dare to Dream a new Reality and Do It. #5 Empowerment. #6 Responsibility. #7 Synchronicity

Happiness Formula: H = S+C+V (Happiness = Set Point In The Brain (Attitude) + Financial Conditions of Living + Voluntary Choices)

Soul Profile: Peak experience? Purpose? Contribution to family? Qualities in a best friend? Heroes in mythology, history? My strengths? Meaningful relationship mean?

PhD for money making is passion hunger drive

Knowledge is not data and facts. Data are facts, observations about occurences and numbers. Information is collection and synthesis of data. Knowledge is a mix of information, experience and context in a value adding process. That process first occurs in the heads of individuals where it is called uncodified knowledge. And when it is shared with others, it becomes codified. (Mckinsey Mind)

"When you make a commitment, you build hope. When you keep a commitment, you build trust."

Notes on Life 22102021

 Reverse Intentionality. A woman was being stalked and saved herself by rushing to her office. She gained composure after a while but her hands were still trembling. A colleague suggested to use reverse Intentionality by shaking her hands even more fast. This decreased her trembling.

Desirability bias is when you see what you want to happen and confirmation bias is when you see what you expect to happen

Use temptation bundling to do boring jobs. Link something tempting, instantly gratifying with a chore you want to do but avoid. For example, watch tv only when you exercise.

Humility is a reflective less, confident humility is a corrective lens. (Adam Grant in Think again)

Detach your present from the past and detatch your opinions from your identities.

Grit is a combination of passion and perseverance.

Life is a marathon, not a horse race.

Self affirmations work better when said out aloud to yourself. First you have think before speaking, then you speak, your ears hear and your brain registers what it heard. So four stages of impact.

We normally worry about memories of the past and imagination about the bad future.

"I have lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which have actually happened."